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Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

My primary method with couples is RLT approach. It is a very direct and honest approach that allows for great results in a short time. Nevertheless, both partners need to be committed and prepared to hear the harsh truth that is provided in a kind and accepting manner.

It is a therapy that in my opinion is the most efficient for couples’ issues. It helps to develop good communication and listening skills, also a sense of accountability for actions. It teaches people how to live a ‘relational life’ which means to consider your significant other in your daily thinking, acting, and decision-making. It also means to take joy in this process of inclusion.

Let me help you speak and listen from your ‘Wise and Functional Adult’ who is compassionate, forgiving, brave, gentle but firm, sees the shades of gray, and is relaxed in the body.

Let me help you protect your ‘Adaptive Child’ who likes to take over in moments of weakness and yells, withdraws, sees only black and white, thinks that it’s always right, or resorts to passive aggression or manipulation.
We are all guilty of using our ‘Adaptive Child’ sometimes but consciously choosing to be in our ‘Wise Adult’ is a skill that can be learned over time.

Are you tired of unresolved arguments and the increasing sense of bitterness in your relationship?
Try Relational Life Therapy with me and your partner now!

Read more about Relational Life Therapy here.

Discenment Counselling for couples on a brink of divorce

This is a therapy designed especially for couples who are not sure if they want to stay together or if one of them is hesitant. I recommend 1-5 sessions, not more.

There needs to be a 100% commitment from both partners to the counselling process if we are supposed to start proper repair with the couple’s counselling (Relational Life Therapy).

Discernment counselling is a combination of individual and couple sessions during which we discover why partners want to stay in the relationship and why they would like to leave. Then we discuss 3 options moving forward:

  1. Staying together in ‘stable ambiguity’ which means that nothing changes
    2. Staying together and committing to at least 4-6 months of couple’s therapy
    3. Divorce or a breakup


The majority of clients pick the last 2 options. During the sessions, we discuss what each person can contribute to the betterment of the relationship. If the ideas for change are sufficient to continue the process and to commit to the therapy, we switch to Relational Life Therapy for Couples.

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