My main area of expertise is counselling people with issues surrounding their sexuality.
The psychosexual therapist is comfortable with discussing sexual issues. Clients are encouraged to talk about their experiences and unique situations in safe, confidential, and non-judgemental conditions. No topic is taboo, but the clients will not be pushed to talk about anything that they are not comfortable with.
Most people during their lifetime will face some kind of an issue surrounding their sexuality. It is important to remember that reaching for help is not a sign of weakness but of strength. Because you are courageous enough to know when you need and ask for assistance instead of living in misery. Sexual problems like many others often get worse with time. That is why the time for the change and searching for the right therapist is RIGHT NOW!
Sex therapy is not only limited to the time during the sessions. I will need your full cooperation after the meetings as well. Homework is an essential part of the treatment. The more committed you are the better and quicker the result will be. I provide various resources, exercises, and techniques that you will be required to practice at home and we can review the outcomes during the meetings.
If you have a partner it is always beneficial to include them during the treatment because sex issues in the relationship caused by a condition of one of the partners are still ‘couples’ issues’. Couples who work through those together have better results. And if you are single do not be discouraged by a lack of a partner, your sex life is as important as any other.
Think of the counselling as you would about personal training but for your mind and life. Your trainer can give you a diet and exercise plan but if you do not put in the work there will be no results.
I have been trained in multiple methods, techniques, and approaches proven to work by science and extensive research over the years. And I will share this knowledge with you.
There are multiple reasons for contacting a Psychosexual Therapist instead of other clinicians:
If you are reading this there is a good chance that you are experiencing some kind of problems in your marriage or relationship.
- Lack of connection?
- Lack of trust?
- Constant arguments?
- Problems in the bedroom and with intimacy?
- Difficult life situations?
All of those problems can be addressed during the treatment. Regain the enjoyment of being within a relationship instead of just bearing it!
During sessions with couples, I use methods such as the Gottman Method, intimacy exercises which are supposed to promote trust, openness and connection and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for couples. The meetings will challenge your beliefs and put you in the shoes of your partner so that you can understand each other better and overcome your differences.
What is Sex Therapy?
To better understand
It is important to know that this type of therapy is like any other counselling consultation. However, it focuses on problems that are connected to your sexuality.
There is also no sexual activity involved during the process!
Therapeutic Session Costs
Consult - 15 min
Common Sexual Problems In Women
Sexual dysfunction is a common problem among women. Almost half of all women have persistent problems with sex, such as little or no sex drive, trouble reaching an orgasm, or pain during intercourse.
Satisfying sex involves your body, mind, health, beliefs, and your feelings toward your partner, among other factors. Here are some possible causes behind problems in your sex life.
Women very often experience painful tightening of the vagina during or before sex. It is important to know that this is an issue that can be treated and changed with practice. I provide useful exercises, homework, recommendations for lubricants and toys which can help with addressing this issue.
LACK OF DESIRE
The most common problem which women report. Find out the mechanisms behind female desire and intensify your pleasure through knowledge and practice.
LACK OF AROUSAL
Also very common. Discover new techniques, exercises, and your ‘exhilarators’. Overcome barriers.
LACK OF ORGASM
Not every woman has an orgasm! It is important to understand that pleasure is a very subjective experience. There is no ‘normal’ in sex, what matters is your satisfaction with it. If you feel distressed by a lack of desire, arousal or orgasm it is a great idea to start sex therapy. You can discover your wands, needs, dislikes, desires, and body.
AND MANY OTHERS!
If you are having issues with obtaining an erection is it very wise to contact a Sex Therapist. There are many ways of treatment and you do not have to start with medications! Sometimes adjustments in your routines are enough.
Often men tend to think that they finish too quickly when actually they are within the average or the even longer range in comparison to other males. There are multiple mechanical and psychological ways to prolong intercourse.
LACK OF DESIRE AND/OR AROUSAL
Men also experience a lack of desire and/or arousal. Therapy can also help you explore your desires, needs, wants, ‘exhilarators’, and barriers.
LACK OF ORGASM
Men sometimes do not experience pleasure when ejaculating. This is also an issue which sex therapy can address.
AND MANY OTHERS!
Common Sexual Problems In Men
Many men struggle with problems during sex. Doctors call this sexual dysfunction. Your health, stress, relationship concerns, and other issues can lead to these problems.
About 31% of men, and 43% of women, have some sort of difficulty during sex. But many types of sexual problems can be treated or otherwise improved. Thanks to ongoing research, doctors understand more about them than ever before.
More Common Sexual Health Conditions
- Specific techniques to work on your sexuality concerns
- Anxiety reduction/relaxation exercises
- Practical strategies to improve communication, trust and deepen connection
- Exercises that help you feel more comfortable and in tune with your body
- Strategies to reduce conflict and tension
TREATMENT OF TRAUMA
Sex therapy is also advised for survivors of rape and sexual assault. If you have flashbacks, issues with intimacy, feel dissociated, and constantly alert it is possible that you have been traumatised. It is very common for the survivors to have issues adjusting after a traumatic situation. Sexual therapy can help with dealing with trauma and regaining sexual confidence.
POST CANCER TREATMENT ISSUES
After going through a huge life change which follows cancer diagnosis and treatment (chemotherapy and radiotherapy) your body and sex life will undergo a change as well. Body faced with serious medical issues can take time to adjust back to having sex. Sex therapy helps to rediscover your sex life to its full potential.
This therapy is also great for people who struggle with for example finding their gender identity. Or for transgender people who go through their sex change and need support. People who identify as members of the LGBTQ+ community can freely discuss their problems during sex therapy in a safe, non-judgemental, and friendly environment.
Other Matters To Discuss With Sex Therapist
Hopefully, that explains what sex therapy is and helps you to establish if you need it.
Remember! Sex, intimacy, and pleasure mean something different to everyone! The diversity in our desires, wants and dislikes is what makes it so wonderful but also more complicated. When you give up on the idea of being ‘just normal’ and what is expected you can start discovering what you really want as an independent sexual being!