Many struggles with lowered self-esteem, poor body image, or lack of self-love. You are not alone!
Oftentimes working on yourself and promoting self-growth and self-compassion can be the best way to go about your life issues. It gives perspective and more room for planning, making important decisions, and working on your relationships. When we are in a good place ourselves the issues start to seem easier to manage. Approaching problems from the inside most of the time can give better results rather than trying to adjust to the world around us.
The most control we have over ourselves rather than over other people or settings. Inner power is the most potent force which you can use in your daily life.
How to gain more confidence and self-esteem?
Here are some practical exercises which can put you on the path of bettering your inner-world.
Find a comfortable position. Close your eyes, breathe naturally and sink into a deep state of relaxation. Think back to your earliest memories of childhood, to a time when you achieved something that surprised you and made you feel happy. Perhaps it was a physical feat, such as jumping over something that had seemed impossible for you at that age, finding your first friend, or being brave when you went to school for the first time. Our memories of childhood are usually vague, but everyone can remember something significant from their early years if they think hard enough. Trust that something will come to the surface and it will, for everything that you have done and everything that you have said has been imprinted on the subconscious. The important thing is that it should be something that pleased you, not necessarily something for which you received approval. When you have a scene in mind, scan it for details. Take in as much of the sounds, smells, and tastes as you possibly can. If you feel yourself becoming emotional, let the feelings flow because it is obviously something that needs to be expressed and cleared. Now scan forward slowly to another incident in your childhood when you made another step forward in understanding or proving your physical ability. Perhaps it was learning to swim or ride a bike. Can you remember if you were anxious about doing this, or maybe you doubted your ability? Can you also recall the feeling when you succeeded? Continue like this through school, further education, your first job, relationships, setting up home, and other incidents to the present moment. Let the images come to you naturally and then, when you are ready, come back to waking consciousness.
Acknowledging Your Achievements
You can use this as a separate meditation, or as an extension of the previous one. If starting afresh, relax as in the previous exercise, then start to visualize doing what you would like to do if you had the time, money, and opportunity to do whatever you wanted.
Indulge your fantasy because it may reveal that what you subconsciously desire is not actually unobtainable at all. Often our dreams of unlimited wealth and success hide modest aspirations such as having more time for ourselves, the courage to act spontaneously, or the need for new surroundings. Let the images flow naturally and then, when it feels right, come back to waking consciousness.
Create Your Affirmations
People often underestimate the power of positive intention and words. The meaning behind the words is what is so powerful about them. By repeating certain phrases to ourselves we can reprocess our brain. Doing the affirmations in front of a mirror is even more influential. Even though you might be feeling not up for the task or your self-esteem is not in the right place at that certain time, DO IT ANYWAY!
- They should be short, simple, unambiguous, and phrased to emphasize the positive. ‘I have a fulfilling and well-paid job with time for myself in the evenings and at weekends,’ will create the right image in the subconscious, whereas ‘I don’t want to work long hours in a poorly paid job,’ will only serve to reinforce 7 your frustration.
- Always express affirmations in the present tense, as if what you want already exists. If you use the future tense you are implying that it might be conditional. You need to impress upon the subconscious that you expect your wish to be fulfilled.
- If you feel some resistance and you have checked that there is no ambiguity in the phrase you are using, persist, because if it is a long-term problem or attitude that you are trying to overcome it is likely that the ego will oppose it, just as it will have done when you first started to establish the habit of meditation.
- Reinforce the affirmation with visualization on the same theme, but be careful that you do not sketch in too many details, otherwise, you risk putting limitations on what is right for you.
- Examples: ‘I am on my true path and every day leads me nearer to my true place. I am complete and perfectly acceptable as I am. ‘I live in an abundant Universe and there is plenty for everybody’ I enjoy perfect health and peace of mind.’ Tam fulfilling the purpose of my life which is becoming clearer to me each day.’ ‘I am calm and “centered”.’ ‘l exist in the present, I let go of the past.
Art Therapy for Positive Body-Image
Art therapy can be a very powerful tool, especially for people who like to express themselves by being creative in any way. If you do not think of yourself as a creator or artist it is ok too! It is about getting out on the paper. The point of art therapy is not to create a ‘beautiful piece of art’ but to express your emotions and thoughts in a different way. You might surprise yourself! Because the mean of communication is different from the one we use every day (speaking) the novelty can create a great outlet for hidden emotional parts.
Body of Positivity:
Create an outline of your body (if you want to go big, make a real size outline using your body on a bigger piece of paper!). Fill the inside with positive affirmations, images, things that make you happy.
Draw what a body image is for you. I know it can be perceived as a vague explanation but it gives you a lot of space for creativity.
Think: Why my body image is important to me? What influences my body image? When and where do I feel a boost in my self-esteem and positive body image?
It can be a drawing of you and external factors or something completely different! By knowing what influences us and what is important in the concept of a body image it is easier to address that issue.